People pleasers. It's a brand that others like, but that damages ourselves. I know. I'm one. But how do we stop being people pleasers and begin to do what we want without the guilt? Here are five ways: Remember that pleasing others is not a virtue, but rather a deficit. It makes you easy to manipulate. Keep that in mind when someone asks you for something and you need to say no thank you. Strike the fear of change. Most change is good. Lack of change will keep you stuck. It's a trap. Look to the future. Constantly thinking of the past keeps you in a place gone but still alive and well in your mind. You cannot do anything about what happened, only about how you will now live. Ruminating thoughts. Learn self-soothing techniques to help calm overthinking. Each time you find yourself on that roller coaster of worry, do some deep breathing, some meditation, or sit and read a book.